You are divinely guided every moment by the love of the universe.
Focus on your breath.
Inhale deeply to the count of 4.
Then exhale 1,2,3,4.
Watch your breath move in and out.
In this video clip, Deanne asks one of the most common questions I get asked by people. “What is Reiki anyway?”
About a year ago I took a huge leap. I left a sure-thing, solid, well-paying job as an environmental risk assessor to pursue my Reiki business full time.
So, you may be wondering, why on earth would a person with a Masters degree in science even be interested in something like Reiki? Even more, why would you leave a career that you invested so much time and energy into (and were also pretty damn good at!)?
Anger. It can be liberating, like a forest fire, burning down the old and unneeded. It can also be destructive. Emptying. A laying waste to the inner landscape. In its wake, we burn ourselves out and are left putting things in order.
It is not that anger is bad, it is just that it is often counter-productive.
The object of our anger, even a righteous cause, does not change productively just because we are angry. Long-term solutions have to be based on emotions that are less volatile than anger.
Anger is, by its nature, temporary. So anything created or changed out of anger would also inherit that same volatile and temporary nature.
Letting go of anger can be accomplished. It is really as simple as slowing down your breath. When we breath slowly, we powerfully take control of our physiological state. Anger is a quick, excitable, flared up, state. We breathe shallowly, chaotically, or not at all.
Breathing slowly, in to the count of seven and out to the count of seven, this can erase anger from your system. Even if your anger increases momentarily, breathing slowly will allow it to be released safely. Keep breathing until the intensity eases.
Once the wave of anger is over, you can begin looking for solutions and possibilities that could bring lasting results. These possibilities were unavailable when you were angry, but now you can see them clearly.
Test it out. Run the experiment. Could something as simple as breathing in and out be the remedy to anger? Let me know in the comments below.
Letting go of anger is a process. It is difficult when we are overwhelmed with emotion to jump right to a positive, happy thought. Peace may feel light years away.
With the Affirmation Ladder process I created, you do not need to get to peace all in one step. Each affirmation is designed to acknowledge the truth of where you are and yet nudge you upward to a better and better place. Over time, you develop the instinct to reach for the affirmation to pull you out of anger than stay mired in an potentially destructive emotion.
The process is simple. Rate the level of anger you have in your body right now. On a scale from zero to ten. Ten being blind rage and zero being peace and contentment. Then you look up the affirmation for your level.
If you are at an anger level of 7, then the affirmation is: “All my emotions are wise teachers. I accept them as the lessons they are. Clarity is all around me.”
Gradually, anger is eased and its natural replacement, peace, becomes the norm for you.
To the right is the whole affirmation ladder for anger. Let me know how it works for you!
Rest in peace is a blessing we say for our dearly departed, but I have begun to ponder its deeper meaning. I have weathered my share of grieving in the past few years and I will be on my way to another funeral for a family member in the next few days. We wish them peace. But I often wonder if we are really the ones in need of peace. Nothing brings you face to face with your mortality faster than a funeral. The person that has passed is on the other side, in the world of Spirit, so they have already got what we are yearning for, peace in the heart.
I often say to my students to take their own good advice they offer to another. So, as I stand here in my physical world, I reach toward a place of stillness within my own heart and mind. In the very centre, there is a deep and vast well of peace. It is spacious and expansive, nurturing and healing.
Death teaches us how to live. I think the sole goal of a successful life is to have a huge funeral with standing room only. In the end, it is not our accomplishments, titles, or possessions that matter, it is the number of hearts we have uplifted and lives we have touched. So today I choose to think a thought of peace and listen to the still voice of wisdom that lives in my heart.
This weekend was the eighth and last class of my first Level I Reiki course, which is an eight lesson course. I developed the longer format for teaching after learning that Master Usui would train his students for years before attuning them to Level I. My intent was to infuse the discipline that comes from practising a new skill back into the format of the western style of teaching Reiki, which is typically taught in a weekend for Levels I and II.
At Level I, I was aiming for teaching my students the basics of energy work, an intro to meditation, and to be able to feel the flow of energy in their hands. By the second class it was overwhelmingly clear that the course would far surpass those goals. Everyone in the course, myself included, had profound and foundational shifts take place in their lives.
We concluded the class with a Reiki share, where one person lays on a massage table and the rest send Reiki healing energy to them. It was then that the sheer magnitude of joy and appreciation flooded through me. It is humbling to teach this work. And it is deeply satisfying to know that I have the opportunity to help others step more fully into their true, magnificent, Divine selves. Tears and laughter flowed in equal measure.
Reiki teaches us to step back from the process and allow the energy to flow through, unimpeded by ego. There is a deep surrendering to the natural healing process and a detachment from the results. Teaching Reiki is a similar, but significantly amped up, process. I got out of the way of what my students were supposed to gain from the course and they received far greater than I could have ever imagined.
I learned so much throughout this process as well. I learned that ego is not just being boastful, but it also plays a part in keeping us small. I had to face the reality that I have developed a life-changing and unique class that has the potential to reach the world. Yes, it is true, I am good at what I do. I had to learn to claim that for myself, because me playing small is not going to help anyone.
I had the opportunity to shift some major mental habits and create new powerful affirmations. I shifted the structure of my life to be more supportive of my purpose. I connected deeply to my spiritual essence and created daily contact with Master Usui, who is an ascended master. All in all, I rocked it!
I will forever be deeply grateful for my students who inspire me on so many levels. The courage and compassion they brought to every class really made it a tremendous experience for everyone. I am so incredibly impressed with their dedication and commitment to the process. I have been very lucky to have had them as my teachers.
If you haven’t tried meditation before, a great way to start is using a guided meditation.
Guided meditations use imagery and relaxation techniques to keep your mind busy so your body can relax and heal itself.
Other kinds of meditations, such as the repetition of mantras or silent meditation, can sometimes be difficult for beginning meditators. Guided meditation helps to train the mind and body to the feeling of meditation, making it easier to sit for longer periods and easier to use more advanced techniques.
“Unfinished Business” guides you through the messages that the dearly departed have for all of us ‘living’ to live better and fuller lives. The messages are interwoven with compelling stories of James Van Praagh’s fascinating mediumship. The book touches on all aspects of our mental and emotional lives and is a great introduction to many self-healing practices.
“Unfinished Business: What the dead can teach us about life.” James Van Praagh. 2009. Harper Collins Publishers. ISBN 978-0-06177814-8.
Why I Read the Book
January has been an emotional month. My dear Grandma of 93 years passed away shortly after Christmas, with the funeral held the first week of January. Then a few short weeks later I learned of my uncle’s death at the all too young age of 58.
I picked up “Unfinished Business” on a whim on the trip back to Calgary following my Grandma’s funeral. While I am nowhere near a medium of the caliber of James Van Praagh, I have, now and then, had brief contact with loved ones who have passed over.
Sometimes it is a candle flickering in a still room or a song played at random that lets me know that a loved one is nearby. Often I just have a knowing or a clear word or two cross my mind, or an image here or there.
When my Grandma passed all I could hear for days afterwards was “I am here, I am still here!” I found myself having full-fledged conversations with her, and all in her characteristic witty style. It seemed right to read more about mediumship and communication with spirits, if, for no other reason, to convince myself that I wasn’t going nutty.
What I got from it Personally/The Book in Action
“Unfinished Business” is one of those books that was in the right place at the right time. While I have been reading it, I have gone to two funerals and two friends of mine have gone to funerals as well. It seems as though death is the theme at the moment. And it raises the question “What is to be learned here?”
As with most questions I have, I reach for books for the answers. This book was a good one for me to be reading through the grieving process. As I read each story about loved ones from the Great Beyond sharing their heartfelt messages to the people they loved, a bit of the grief I was feeling melted away.
There was something very comforting about reading story after story of passed loved ones so eager to communicate their messages.
The advice from the spirits in the book seemed to echo messages I have encountered before and reinforced many of the ideas that are the most beneficial for mental, emotional and physical health. To paraphrase some of the messages: Ditch your addictions; Forgive yourself, apologize and forgive others; Let go of the past before you die; and We are here and we are happy, please be happy too. So to that end, I am re-evaluating my coffee habit; I’m continuing the forgiveness process; I’m letting go of old ideas, emotions, and general junk in my life; and most importantly I am trusting that we never truly die and my job is to live a life I love.
Related Concepts and Books
The power of forgiveness – “If I Can Forgive, So Can You: My Autobiography of How I Overcame My Past and Healed My Life.” Denise Linn. 2005. Hay House. ISBN 978-1401908881.
Dealing with fear – “Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway.” Susan Jeffers. 2006. Ballantine Books; 20th Anniversary edition. ISBN 978-0345487421
You are more than your achievements, possessions or body – “The Shift: Taking Your Life from Ambition to Meaning.” Wayne Dyer. 2010. Hay House. ISBN 978-1401927097.
Read this Book if…
You are grieving the loss of a loved one.
You are curious about mediumship.
You want to feel more alive while you are living.