So if you have walked into a bookstore lately, you probably have seen the **awesome!! happy clap!** display of adult colouring books. Yes, that is right! Permission to colour!!
I spent many hours this summer swooning over the pages of the mandala colouring book I have. Besides being super fun, it struck me that there is so much more going on when we put pen to paper. It is the essence of creation.
Brené Brown is just friggen awesome. Every single time I watch this video I get chills. There is just no substitute for brilliance like this.
“Shame drives two big tapes: “Never good enough”; and if you can talk it out of that one, “Who do you think you are?” – Brené Brown
Shame is, as Brené says, a statement that says “I am bad”. It is different from guilt which is a break in our own moral rules, which says “I have done something bad.”
Anger. It can be liberating, like a forest fire, burning down the old and unneeded. It can also be destructive. Emptying. A laying waste to the inner landscape. In its wake, we burn ourselves out and are left putting things in order.
It is not that anger is bad, it is just that it is often counter-productive.
The object of our anger, even a righteous cause, does not change productively just because we are angry. Long-term solutions have to be based on emotions that are less volatile than anger.
Anger is, by its nature, temporary. So anything created or changed out of anger would also inherit that same volatile and temporary nature.
Letting go of anger can be accomplished. It is really as simple as slowing down your breath. When we breath slowly, we powerfully take control of our physiological state. Anger is a quick, excitable, flared up, state. We breathe shallowly, chaotically, or not at all.
Breathing slowly, in to the count of seven and out to the count of seven, this can erase anger from your system. Even if your anger increases momentarily, breathing slowly will allow it to be released safely. Keep breathing until the intensity eases.
Once the wave of anger is over, you can begin looking for solutions and possibilities that could bring lasting results. These possibilities were unavailable when you were angry, but now you can see them clearly.
Test it out. Run the experiment. Could something as simple as breathing in and out be the remedy to anger? Let me know in the comments below.
I like to tell my students that there is no push or pull in Reiki. It is divine, infinite and intelligent. You don’t need to push it it go faster, you only need to get out of the way of it.
Just like you don’t need to push a waterfall, Reiki is always there, flowing far greater, far clearer, and with greater subtlety and power than we could ever conjure up on our own. It is divinely wise and inherently egoless. No pushing or pulling required.
It strikes me that this principle works in a great many other areas of life.
So, if you find yourself going slower even though you are trying harder, ask yourself, are pushing and pulling too much? Are you allowing the divine support of the Universe in?
Or are you rigidly accepting only one avenue of support?
Are you pushing time to go faster? Cramming more and more in and getting less and less back?
Maybe it is time to allow God/Divine/the Universe (or what you call it) to help you.
Can I get an Amen?
Maybe, just maybe, the universal intelligence that lies underneath all matter has something better for you. Maybe it is all on the way to you the second you say yes to help.
It is yours.
have been lost,
will you find
what you are looking for.
maybe learning to lose
is the only way to win.
maybe all that is needed is pinky promises, dinosaurs, and aquariums.
Well. That’s it. There is nothing more to be done. The exam is finished and handed in. The letters have been sent. The ads posted. The request made and made again. Every angle has been tried. Every detail checked.
It is done.
It is time to let go.
Surrender is the hardest when we have the most at stake. Our loved ones, our financial stability, our art, our careers, our purpose. It would seem that we would not ever want to slide sideways into the vulnerable unknown when it comes to these important and dear ones.
The mind says “Let’s control our way out of vulnerability!”
Except that doesn’t always work. Especially when we need to wait for results, or wait for the call, or wait for the response, or wait for payday.
We are flung into the barren void.
Ouch. It feels terrible here. Living in unknownland.
So what can we reasonably do?
The only thing that has ever reliably worked for me is this:
First, surrender attachments. Acknowledge that there is more in play here than just you. There are pieces and people that need to move into place first. You don’t even know what needs to shift first. It is not your work to orchestrate it all. You can’t make it go faster. All you can do is acknowledge that your part is done. All you can do is let go of “how it is all supposed to turn out”.
Once you let go of the wishing for it to be different rather than the way it is, you release the pressure. You begin to free up energy. There is more space.
It is the way it is.
Let everything else go.
Let go of labels. Let go of the outcome. Let go of calling it a good or bad experience. Let go completely.
This is different from giving up. Hugely different! Letting go is the deep acknowledgment that forces beyond you are at work on your behalf. Giving up is about losing faith and abandoning what you want in a misguided attempt to minimize pain. Letting go is expansive. Giving up is contractive. Letting go helps you; giving up does not.
When you let go, you are really just handing it over to the Universe. You can make this easier by thinking of a spirit, being, God, Goddess, or passed over loved one, someone who really is in your corner standing in front of you right now. Maybe they even have their hands on your shoulders or they are giving you a hug. They tell you, “Leave it with me.”
Let them take whatever is worrying you. It is their turn to do their job. You trust and believe in them to give you a clear signal of when they are done. You will get a strong impulse to act only when it is your turn.
Everything else is well handled.
Listen very closely to your guidance system. Follow your intuitive hunches and instincts for the next three days. Watch and be amazed.
Let me know how this works for you!
I am relishing this spring. So many things are coming together. There are sprouts of green all around me. It is a traditional time for clearing house.
I am swept along in the energy of the season.
Happily, I am letting go. But even more I am happily making room for good to flow in.
I love creating sacred spaces. I have a sense of what enhances the energy of a space and how much simple shifts make big differences. My plan is to transform every room in our small house into sacred space.
It all started with a discussion with my husband about what to do with the piles of paper on the kitchen table, which doubles as our desk. He said that our table is sacred. It really is the heart of a home. We bought a small bonsai ficus for a centre piece and we both make the effort to clear it off daily and have dinner together.
From there the energy has expanded to other areas and we are slowly shifting many things in our living spaces and our lives. It is a wonderful intertwining of inner changes creating outer changes, which create more inner changes.