Does your teen make a plan with you and then ditch you for her friends?
Does your teen say hurtful things to you?
Does your teen squirm away when you try to be physically affectionate?
Even the nicest teens say mean things.
I remember looking at a photo of my Mom when she was a young woman wearing plaid bellbottoms, and I said, “Did you actually think you looked GOOD back then?”
Ouch! Sorry, Mom.
I have always been fascinated by distance Reiki. When I first learned about energy healing, I read stories about people being healed through sessions where the practitioner and the client were in different places, sometimes even different cities or countries. The effect of those Reiki sessions was just as powerful and profound as when they were done in person. Now that I am a Reiki Master, I have personally experienced and witnessed amazing changes in distance Reiki Sessions.
As a practitioner, I don’t do anything differently when I do a distance session compared to an in-person session, except I am visualizing putting my hands on the person and we are chatting on the phone. It is fascinating to my science brain.
“So often we become so focused on the finish line, that we fail to enjoy the journey.” –Dieter F. Uchtdorf
This has been coming up for me a lot lately.
In a world where we’re always striving to be someone or get somewhere, when I take a moment to appreciate my surroundings, and notice all my senses — how I’m feeling, what thoughts are swirling around me, and whether they’re serving me or not — I can consciously make a choice to react differently, because I care how I feel in this moment.
Just for today, I will be grateful.
I can’t commit to being happy all the time, but I can commit to being grateful, one day at a time. In fact, it is my daily commitment to gratitude that keeps me going. Giving thanks has been part of my life for as long as I can remember; prayers at meals and bedtime, and going around the table at Thanksgiving to say out loud, in front of everyone, what I am grateful for have become rituals that I enjoy. Every time I sit down to write a birthday card I end up expressing gratitude for the qualities in that person that touch my life. Another gratitude practice of mine is when I’m feeling frazzled or anxious, I get out my journal and write out pages of things I’m grateful for, to bring me back to a place of calm and appreciation. At the end of the day, I am most grateful for my family and my health, and all my other worries seem small.
Hello lovely peoples!
I hope you are riding out the intense energy surrounding this full moon on the summer solstice. There was a bunch of things shifting in the world at large and it generally meant that a big ol’ spotlight was shone on any parts of your life that needed to change.
In this video clip, Deanne asks one of the most common questions I get asked by people. “What is Reiki anyway?”
About a year ago I took a huge leap. I left a sure-thing, solid, well-paying job as an environmental risk assessor to pursue my Reiki business full time.
So, you may be wondering, why on earth would a person with a Masters degree in science even be interested in something like Reiki? Even more, why would you leave a career that you invested so much time and energy into (and were also pretty damn good at!)?
I fell down the stairs this summer. Actually, it was more like a carpeted ladder, and I more flew than fell. I was just waking up from a powerful dream where I was pulled into the time of Julius Ceasar. I wanted to creep downstairs (downladder) and steal a few morning moments of writing in peace before my son and husband woke up. Before all the bustle and holidaying would sweep me away from the memory of this powerful dream.
The results are so neat and clear. Meditation and Reiki, even just five minutes, can completely change your state. Your stress levels drop and happiness levels go up. What is so cool is that the results are statistically significant and consistent. That is nerd speak for, this is the real deal!
In the Reiki and Meditation Science Experiment, I have people rank their stress in 30 categories of stressors, everything from losing a spouse to getting a big zit. In the experiment, you rank your stress before and after either a 5 minute meditation or a 5 minute self-healing Reiki session.
Five minutes of meditation creates a 56% drop in stress levels.
Five minutes of a guided self-healing creates a 61% drop in stress.
As you can imagine, when you drop stress, happiness also increases.
I created another quiz where you rank your happiness levels by using the Reiki Ideals. The Reiki Ideals are: do not anger; do not worry; be grateful; do meditation and self-care; and be kind. After a 15 minute meditation, happiness levels increased.
Fifteen minute meditation increases happiness by 25%
What is so cool about all of this is that you don’t need to have a good meditation to get these results. Often when we drag ourselves to our practice, we get huge benefits. Even though these monkey-mind, chattering thoughts, restless meditations feel like we are terrible at meditating, we often see the biggest drop in stress when we have them.
So basically, don’t worry about doing meditation well, or the correct way. You just need to do it. Just show up and the results just happen.
What I have found is that not only do stress levels drop after a few minutes of meditating or doing Reiki, the effects are long lasting and cumulative. The more you meditate, the lower your stress levels.
I am a firm believer in frequency. The more often you meditate or do Reiki and self-healing, the bigger the benefit. It all adds up. In the long run, you become happier and more resilient to stresses.
And you only need a few minutes a day to create these changes. No need to spend hours coiled in a preztel! Just sit comfortably and breathe slowly for 5 minutes with your eyes closed and you will absolutely transform your life.
Summer is fully here. And with it arrives a dream.
A year ago I started the first draft of my book and since then I have been working on it whenever I could. Now I am lucky to be able to devote my focus and energy this summer on the revisions and edits that will take it from a stream-of-consciousness download to a polished work.
At the same time, I am saying goodbye to a 15+ year career as an environmental risk assessor. It has served me really well, but now is the time to leap into the new.